For most women, attaining certain age in life comes with gradual loss of appetite for sex. And do you blame them? What with the combined cycle of house chores, producing babies, children minding, attending to husbands as well as near and extended families. Add all of these to the demands of their careers. Little wonder sex is taking the back row on their minds.
But can you, as a woman, entirely do without having sex? Even if you think you can, your husband cannot.
So, how do you please him and still fulfil your other responsibilities? A quickie is the magic you need.
Of all the ways to have sex, quickies are actually one of the best. I know you are murmuring, “Oh, she has come up with a trash.”
But before you shout me down, let me correct that belief you have all these years that quickies are for cheap or flirty ladies. No way! It is not.
It also doesn’t mean those instances when your man finishes before you and you’re left frustrated and unsatisfied.
Fellow sisters, a quickie is that spontaneous, fast romp you have when you’re supposed to be doing something else!
Simply put further, a quickie is a really fast and hot sex that you both enjoy when you really don’t have the time for a long session of foreplay and lovemaking. “So, what?” Did you just say?
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Cool down. See, we all honestly, need a quickie, even if it is once awhile.
It is one way to get adventurous, it is one way to keep our sex life alive, it is one way to keep your man glued to you.
And you know what? it doesn’t take more than five minutes. At times, it even takes less, which makes it exactly what you need.
It saves you the stress of foreplay and you have the opportunity of keeping your man. So, how do you go about it?
Ensure that you are ready. Do this by making up your mind to attempt one. Quickies are best when you’re already in the mood.
Here’s your guide:
Try it first thing in the morning:
Well, a number of people are put off having morning sex for a number of reasons. Some think they’ll be late for work, and others are just uncomfortable starting the day with sex. But you know what? Those people are missing it. Morning sex is the best time for a quickie for lots of fabulous reasons:
He’s already on
You don’t have to get all involved in the foreplay or coax him into getting in the mood, he’s already got his morning wood on for you! A morning quickie is perfect for the simple reason that you don’t have to bother with the work up.
You’re already naked
Meaning you are, at least, pretty close to it. That’s why it is good to sleep in a T-shirt or a simple night dress, which makes all things to work together for good.
It wakes you up fast!
Having sex first thing in the morning is a great way to get energised for your day! If you’re the kind of person who likes to go to the gym before work, then remember this: Sex burns a lot of calories. Skip the trip to the treadmill and burn off those calories (and energise yourself) the old-fashioned way.
You’ll be more relaxed for work
Having a morning quickie will make you much more relaxed for work. Let’s be honest, sex makes us happy. There’s no reason to wait until you’re exhausted from a long, hard day at the office to have sex. Do it first thing in the morning when you’re ready to start a new day and you’ll feel much better.
It can be served during the day
You don’t have to limit a quickie to the morning, though. Some people really just aren’t morning people. You can always have a quickie at any time of the day or night. The thing to remember is that a quickie must be quick and must be satisfying. So, make sure you and your man are in the mood. I recommend some hot and heavy dirty talk by text to set the stage for this.
Wear easily accessible clothing
If you’re going to have a quickie, the last thing you need to do is waste time getting undressed. Don’t put on your high heels and pantyhose for this; wear something with easy access instead. I recommend your favourite cute little yoga pants and a T-shirt. You’re not trying to dress to impress; you’re trying to have really quick sex!
Be spontaneous (don’t plan it all out)
While you can make a generally planned time for a quickie, you shouldn’t try so hard. It’s much more exciting when it’s unexpected and full of heat and passion! Planning too much into your quick little sex play is only going to ruin the mood. Let it happen when it happens, and whatever you do, don’t say “now’s not the time” because Now IS the time!
Or…plan it for lunch
The exception I make to the “don’t plan it out” rule is when you plan a mid-afternoon lunch break quickie. There’s nothing more satisfying than coming home in the middle of the afternoon, having hot sex, and then going back to work with your naughty little secret. Seriously, you can plan to make your lunch hour match your man’s and meet at home for a little lunchtime fun.
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Try it someplace new
Don’t assume a quickie has to be done in the bedroom, either. I’ve had a quickie on the living room floor, barely inside the front door, simply because we were too worked up to make it to the bedroom.
For those times when a quickie happens spontaneously in the middle of the day or evening, try the kitchen cabinets, the living room couch, the stairs, the floor, or anywhere else you can get naked without the neighbours seeing you.
Unless you want them to see you; that’s a different story.
Your quickie shouldn’t be thought out, it doesn’t have to be romantic and you definitely don’t have to look your best. Which is another reason doing it first thing in the morning is the best for a quickie.
If you’re worried about your breath, keep a packet of chewing gum on the dresser or anywhere and throw one in to quickly mask that morning breath before you start kissing your man. Or, each of you could take a quick morning swig from a bottle of water.
All you really need for a quickie is to be in the mood for sex. That’s it. You want sex, you want it now, and you’ve only got about five minutes. You can do this in five minutes. So, why aren’t you doing it right now? It is what you need, believe me; it is what every man, every woman needs. Just give it a try and I am sure you will never stop.
