Pascal Oparada
Nigeria’s songstress, Onyeka Onwenu said her marriage was emotionally abusive and that she stayed longer than necessary because of her love for her ex-husband and her children.
“…So you make sacrifices because of the family. But there comes a time when you have to say, I’ve done enough of the sacrificing and if you really care about the children, you save yourself, because it could have killed me, it could have killed me. So, you save yourself. I was going down and then, my brother comes in. It took my brother calling me aside one day to say ‘you’re losing yourself,” she said.
In an interview with Chude Jideonwo, the Elegant Stallion said her estranged husband changed due to the bad experiences he had and took it out on her.
“I have a lot of regard for (my ex-husband).
“The marriage was incredible, it was incredibly beautiful, it was passionate, We were friends. We were the sort of friends who could stay in the house for a month without stepping out and we were preoccupied, reading (the) newspaper, doing whatever. He was a very good friend.
“But sometimes when things happen to people they changed and sometimes, instead of taking it out on the people who have caused the problem, it’s expedient to take it out on the closest people to you, that happened. Why did I take it for so long? Because I loved him and I loved my children and my children loved their father. So you make sacrifices because of the family. But there comes a time when you have to say, I’ve done enough of the sacrificing and if you really care about the children, you save yourself, because it could have killed me, it could have killed me. So, you save yourself.
“I was going down and then, my brother comes in.
“It took my brother calling me aside one day to say ‘you’re losing yourself,” she said.
