That mothers play an important role in the lives of their children is no longer new but the fact that most of these mothers are unaware of this weight and fail to exploit this influence is what is worrisome and, therefore, calls for attention.
For all that is there to know, the mother’s contribution has been discovered by some human psychologists to usually portray how these sons end up in character and in other aspects of life in the future. As a matter of fact, one of those psychologists, Mrs. Sharon Idemudia, observed that the current upsurge of youths in crime of different sorts in the nation is evidence of failure of parental guidance, especially mothers. “Because majority of parents, especially mothers do not have time to guide and pass the right values and norms to their children, these days, the country is full of lazy, wealth-thirsty young men, resulting in the daily increase in the number of young criminals in the country,” ‘she said.
When a mother has a grown-up son, there is a lot that she needs to teach him.
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Since mothers’ contribution is major in how sons end up in life, every mother should make sure their sons end up growing into upright men. The following are some traits they need to inculcate in them.
Hard work
Laziness is one habit that should be far away from any man that would be great in life. This should be major in whatever any mother may want to teach her son. Teach them that there is dignity in labour. So, let them learn the essence of working hard and earning from their sweat. Teach them never to look for easy ways of making wealth. Encourage hard work in your sons by engaging them in house chores, even if you have house helps and they are special kids. Also, let them see examples in you and their father an uncles around. Again, familiarise them with men in the society who are thriving via hard work. All of these will encourage them. Discourage the general love of younger ones for betting and other quick money making deals around.
Respectfulness
Disrespectful acts, rudeness are peculiar traits that boys pick at a certain age. So, mothers need to rise to this duty to have them well-moulded at an early age. For your son to be able to respect himself, he needs to start by respecting others and this should start from the homefront. Mothers should teach their sons the importance of respecting others so that they can get along well with people that they meet. Besides, let them know that respect is earned. So, they must make efforts to earn it. Respect is also resiprocal; if they respect others, they will equally return same.
Gentlemanliness
Always discourage your son from being a bully. Most male kids believe being a bully gives them a place among their mates. So, they strive to bully their feeble-minded classmates both male and female. Teach your son that this is not the best. Teach him to always treat people around him right, as it is the best thing to do in life. More so, give him examples of how those boys that happened to be bullies in their lives did not succeed in life. Let him know the essence of being a gentleman in life, the benefits and examples of men who are not bullies around you.
Accepting responsibilities
No one is perfect and, therefore, everybody is prone to make mistakes. However, after making a mistake, the step that you take is what defines one. Therefore, it is the obligation of every mother to teach their sons the importance of being responsible, most especially whenever they do wrong. So, teach your son the importance of taking responsibilities of incidents, errors and faults of groups he heads whatever. Let him know that it is evidence of him being responsible, it also qualifies him as a good leader. It is again a trait of humility and very high self-esteem. It endears men to women cause they respect responsible men a lot.
